I couldn't handle that many babies, though. And people have stopped asking us because they assume we are too old now anyway. I never thought I'd say this, but, THAT hurts even worse.
Oh, it certainly wasn't because people were suddenly thoughtful! There were, fortunately, other distractions, so rather than being a case of, "don't you want to hold my beautiful baby?" it was more, "oh my gosh, Shmulie's gotten into the knives - here! Hold the baby!"
There's no chance to say, "ummm...no" but the upside is no one notices you're not ooohing and aaahing.
Wessel, big hugs. And a virtual smack to your stupid-ass classmate.
I'm an Orthodox Jew on the IVF road to, well, somewhere. Hopefully parenthood. We're dealing with age, male infertility, Orthodoxy, finances, in-laws and one neurotic dog.
::Note::
Please do not use me as a guideline for Jewish practice. I am always learning, and what is okay in my community, might not be okay in yours. I'm happy to answer your questions, bearing in mind you should always consult your Rav for the standards of your community.
Also, if you think you know who I am, please don't wave hi. My ability to speak freely is important to me, so I don't want to know that you know. Todah rabah.
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Great friends/family you have. :-)
It's a miracle - no insensitive Fertile comments! Yeah - people are starting to learn....or Hell has frozen over.
incredible!!
i'm nearly at that point too - where people stop asking because they pitty me - i'm sure of it.
good for you!
I couldn't handle that many babies, though. And people have stopped asking us because they assume we are too old now anyway. I never thought I'd say this, but, THAT hurts even worse.
Oh, it certainly wasn't because people were suddenly thoughtful! There were, fortunately, other distractions, so rather than being a case of, "don't you want to hold my beautiful baby?" it was more, "oh my gosh, Shmulie's gotten into the knives - here! Hold the baby!"
There's no chance to say, "ummm...no" but the upside is no one notices you're not ooohing and aaahing.
Wessel, big hugs. And a virtual smack to your stupid-ass classmate.
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